Tuesday, September 17, 2019

A Sign From Heaven

     Following the deaths of my brother, mother, and father-in-law, I waited patiently for some kind of sign from them that they were okay.  I longed for something that would comfort me in my time of grief and also, reassure me in this life that they were okay in the afterlife. Alas, as hard as I looked, no signs were forthcoming.
     Not long after my brother's death though, I did read about the belief that cardinals are symbolic of our loved ones in heaven.  They are God's way of letting us know that our loved ones are at peace. Oddly enough, on the second anniversary of my brother's passing, I noticed a bright red cardinal resting upon the limb of a tree in my backyard, when I opened my sliding door to let my pups outside.  My heart jumped a bit, but I didn't give it too much credence until later in the day, when, while sitting on my front porch steps, it alighted upon the branch of a small tree directly in front of me.
    "Bill?" I asked. Not surprisingly, the bird did not answer, but nor did it fly away either.  I was starting to wonder.
     For the next few days, whenever I went outside, the bird would seemingly miraculously reappear.  I almost felt like it was following me. Then, one night around 9 pm in the evening, I could hear a cardinal's distinctive call outside my mother's upstairs bedroom window.  My mother, who was living with us then, was in another room.  She was suffering from Macular Degeneration but when I called her over to the window the bird was on a branch so close by that she was able to make it out when she turned her head.
     "Mom," I said, "I think that is Bill!  That cardinal keeps following me around everywhere I go and now, here he is late in the day singing outside your window!  I think he wants you to know that he is okay!"
     I was becoming a believer by that point, so when my other brother and his wife came over to visit my mom, I suggested we go out into the backyard and sit on the deck to see if  Bill would show up.  Sure enough, he did. My brother Martin and his wife were not convinced, nor was my sister Janet when she stopped by and Bill failed to appear.  Still, they humored me and Janet even sent me a Christmas card with a cardinal on it.
     Life went on, and, after my mother's passing, Gina, Jamie and I had occasion to visit my mom and dad's grave.  My mother had always wanted to be put to rest by my father, but, when he died so many years earlier, we were given a family plot that had other members on either side of him.  Through my brother's efforts though, we were able to honor her wishes after she was cremated.  The cemetery allowed for someone's ashes to be buried in the grave of a loved one and a new headstone to rest upon the old one. Martin sent a photo of the new headstone but it wasn't until sometime later, that we saw it in person for the very first time.  Jamie wanted to commemorate our moment together and suggested that the three of us stand alongside the stone with our feet touching the edges.  Looking down as she took the photo I noticed what I thought was a white flower of some kind, engraved above the names and dates.
     "I wonder what that is?" I asked the girls. "I don't remember it in the photo Uncle Martin sent."  I then leaned down and rubbed my hand on it.
     "Mom, I think that is a bird dropping." one of the twins replied in answer to my question.  Sure enough, she was correct.
     When I returned home I emailed Martin and Janet because I knew they would find this incident amusing.  I thoroughly enjoyed my brother's succinct reply. "Must be from a cardinal" was all he wrote.
     Blessings - Amycita
   

4 comments:

  1. Amy, you find love and humor in the most interesting places. love u

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  2. Beautiful and funny! - Jamie

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  3. I love this story! Thank you for sharing it. When my Mom died I asked if she would give me a sign that she was happy. I asked her to show me a pink rose. I was packing to go back to Michigan and I had to pack Christmas gifts because it was December. I saw a calendar I was going to give my Mom and when I opened it, it was the month of June, my Mom's birth month. The picture was a mass of pink roses and the words "Love is like a rose, the joy of all the earth." The day of her funeral was a cold, dark and drizzly day. We were stopped at a traffic light and I noticed a huge pole. My eyes traveled upwards and at the top was a lit up sign with a pink rose on it. I was telling my aunt about it and she said, yes there's a florist shop on that corner. The sign rotates back and forth. No, I said, it was stationary and facing our car.

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  4. *such talent in expressing the ways of life ... and death.
    Nobody takes me seriously as shown in their eyes cause eyes don't lie & neither do I.
    Always loved Cardinals although rare to see for me but after my brother tragically & unexpectantly died I was followed by a Cardinal every morning on my way to my car. From one tree limb to another as I walked comforting my total loss of faith in anything. I'll never believe it wasn't the spirit of my brother telling me it's ok; move on in life. I remember every thing he ever said to me in advice & I use it as my Bible to this day ... over 20 years later. Thanks Amy, for sharing your unique insights ♥

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